
I'm concerned with whether or not I would be harming my family's financial future if I take an extended maternity leave with my second child paid off about $217,000 since my net take home is10 what about your husband um his is about his net was 70 what's he do he owns some some car washes um so you're going to cut your income by 60 65% we would still have $86,000 of my student loan left it's our only debt besides our mortgage that we still have left to pay on but we've we've been paying on it be able to make the minimum payments and maybe a little bit more I'm just concerned this is going to cause harm long term I kind of want to like relieve you from from that Nicole I think yeah your your goals are going to shift if your family goals shift and that's a reality but it's not like you're putting your family in massive danger here right so many women feel this and especially since you're the bread winner of that I have to be the one to save everything and it's up to me and I'm going to put my family in danger I'm you know like this language that you're using you're putting more pressure on yourself needs to be there Rachel's right that's an overstated word a a mom guilt word you get Mom guilt if you're at home cuz you you feel like you should be at work and if you're at work you get Mom guilt because you feel like you should be at home I mean it's a no win and there's always some more on on either side of the coin telling you you should be doing the other one right