he makes about 250,000 a year and refuses to give me um access to the finances we've been married for eight years I've been a stay-at-home M for two I'm not on his account does give me you know x amount of money each month to pay the bills doesn't even really cover the bill amount to be honest with you and I'm always left with zero dollars dang Angela why why won't he put you on the account what does he say um I think it maybe fear of giving that control up I know I know cuz that's where the difficulty comes in yeah I mean it would be it's a level of of this the splitting of finances to the point that you don't have access I mean that that borders line Financial abuse that you don't have the ability to access money that is coming into your household regardless of who makes it or not the idea that that he's withholding that that's a that's a big red flag of course I can ask him for $20 or $50 but who want who wants to you're not his daughter this is bothering you because it's wrong and so just confirm for you this is wrong um it sounds to me like it it's a whole lot more toxic and bad than you actually think it is you've kind of you've kind of normalized this and no I mean this is like weird okay this is strange it's it's at that level
