life is just full of logistics so whether you have little kids you're working how do you guys stay emotionally connected we've always committed to um that we are PRI our relationship is the priority that means we have to have time together and we read a newspaper clipping from inlanders forever ago that said neglect the whole world rather than each other as marriage advice and we just uh Embrace that and we decided we wouldn't be child-centered parents as much as we love our kids that we can love them best by putting our marriage first.