learned of some pretty catastrophic devastating financial information he did invest in the 401K the 17,000 gone to be frank he's got a lot of major management issues I've always pressed to try to have a household budget and anytime I would press it I became fearful because he would get terribly angry um but he just kept saying quote relax quote everything's fine um don't nitpick me we're fine and he just kept saying you wanting to do this budget and asking me these questions is showing me you don't trust me apparently I had reason not to trust him and and there's no money in the retirement and is it and it's because he's been spending it throughout the year so he's just been dwindling it down and now you guys are 62 and you don't have anything reti well not only that I became very ill I wasn't expected to survive we now have $126,000 in debt he is lying to you he is an angry person that you can't bre to subject with which is not just money Beth this is an Insight picture into the marriage right and so this is this is your entire life like he's he's driving you guys with his pattern of behavior over 30 years with no no flag for change it's going to continue to go down this Lane and that's not going to be healthy for you and so if I were you Beth talk to him and say until trust can be built back and I see a new pattern we're separating our finances CU it's a symptom of how our marriage has been
