so I've gotten myself into a big hole I apologize right now my account's negative $600 I have no money um I've in the past 60 days I've paid over $1,300 in overdraft fees and I just don't know where to start I have a husband and we have two kids he was just giving me money to pay the bills Holly are you working yeah so you guys have separate accounts you all are running your relationship and your household horribly preacher said and now you are one and you're not acting like it you're acting like to got some work to do to get on the same page because I'm not going to live where you treat me like your servant I'm curious if you combined both of your incomes and you guys really worked out of one account you paid household bills together out of that account would you be behind on the mortgage right now he we use money the way we view Money the way our dreams are around money and our fears all of that is so wrapped up into who we are and when you keep that part of you from your spouse which is what he's doing there's such a lack of transparency that's going on is one of the reasons we talk about the level of unity horrible everything is everything's there and you're working together and and you're you're a team and you're not being held like this I mean Holly when you said I'm behind my words you're not you guys are behind yes and that amount of weight that is we are about to lose our house yes because you are standing over there in the dark handing out money like I'm your child
